Ace of Wands: Ace Your Horniness & Vitality | by Jules HazardOn March 17, 2022 by local dreamer
I’m not the first tarologist to come up with attributing horniness to Ace of Wands. Apart from all the mentions of this deep-rooted symbolism in serious literature… Well, just look at the imagery. A stick phallic in form held tight with a generous godly hand. Any ancient philosopher or mystic would find it evident that the stick represents erect manhood (which was a HUGE deal both back then and now) and is thus associated with fertility, impregnation, and the active, outwardly creative element of our being. “I want and I will.” Like any other symbol, this phallic object overgrows (literally) the triviality of its appearance to delve into much more complex laws of existence.
This article too has little to do with sexual stuff and a lot with how desire empowers us and paves the road to action. Even if you’re not into tarot, reading further you might find some useful insights and practical exercises to reflect on what hinders your motivation and drive.
Aces in Tarot: Overview
There’s a lot to be said about what Aces are for the Minor Arcana. Here are several basic clues:
- A handsome gift of opportunity and just enough inner or outer resources to seize it (your startup budget),
- A hopeful prospect of new beginnings in the respective area of life,
- The first step on your journey: acknowledging your desires, feelings, ideas, abilities, etc. before putting them to use, a new state or mindset,
- The root of the cause, the fundamental basics of the issue, the key force behind it,
- And, most importantly, every Ace represents the very quintessence of its suit, pure potential unwrapping itself further throughout the cycle of arcana.
What an Ace is definitely not, is action or development itself. Any Ace is a prerequisite that can be embraced, integrated, and planned around. A seed to be planted and nurtured. It presents you with something that can be invested in your venture of choice — or ignored and discarded without further progress. Only when you take your startup budget and direct it towards your new goal, the real action begins.
But if an Ace itself is nothing specific and tangible, how is it a verb?
Ace Is a Verb
All human behavior is state-driven and state-dependent. The effectiveness of your actions largely depends on whether you’re feeling well physically and mentally; whether you’re excited about your activity and optimistic about its outcomes; confident in your ability and eager to learn; clear on your goals and methods. If you tick all of the above, you probably have the best mindset for embarking on a new journey. Your state calls you to action and offers enough resources to handle the first stages.
And that’s exactly what an Ace is: a call to action. Let’s review how exactly all four Aces give us a nudge to do things.
Do you feel particularly inspired, hopeful, or enamored of your project or an emerging connection with a new person in your life? Does this feeling coincide with your emotional needs and values? If so, it’s the Ace of Cups that pulls you towards pursuing the new emotional experience.
Is there a new idea or a challenge that gets your wheels turning? A fresh perspective to reflect on and integrate into your worldview? A cause you feel ready to fight for? That’s your Ace of Swords that propels you to tend to your need for competence and autonomy, but also to redefine your concepts of right and wrong.
Are you boiling and bursting with enthusiasm, ambition, and passion towards a new venture? Do you yourself marvel at your blunt determination to achieve and expand? Maybe you feel all itchy from the very possibility of getting that thing out of your head and releasing it into the world? This outward motion is the creative rush from your Ace of Wands pushing you to step out of your boundaries and gather the willpower to get that thing done.
Finally, if you feel particularly energized, physically and mentally capable, or you’ve happened to acquire any other valuable resource (e.g. money or an opportunity for earning, a useful practical method, etc.), Ace of Pentacles teaches you that there’s no point in stacking stuff aimlessly. The best way to handle your new treasures is to invest in development and improvement; there’s no better use for what you’ve gained. Your intention gets grounded in reality with all the preconditions required to actually start doing the thing.
As you’ve noticed, each and every Ace speaks volumes of our states but gives little instructions on how to make stuff happen. Well, they aren’t supposed to. What they however can do is help you work through your blocks and uncover the potential of your productive states.
Your state isn’t something you’re dreadfully stuck with. You aren’t born all jumpy with enthusiasm; your brain is evolutionarily wired to conserve energy. But still, setting up your starting point is totally a skill you can… Ace.
Ideally, the perfect start of your activity should engage all four energies: your emotional values, ideas, desire, and resource. That is, of course, not always the case. You might lack some of the ingredients, and it’s fine if you’re able to compensate for them. However, I find it the hardest to get myself to do stuff if I lack only one: desire.
And that would be the domain of our Ace of Wands.
Sex Up Your Self-Talk
There’s not much to the words ‘I want.’ They hold no real distinction between how you want an apple or a major breakthrough in your project. It’s not enough to want something for it to really fuel your bestest efforts. It might just as well lead you as far as your kitchen to get that apple from your fridge.
Making up sexier definitions for your wishes is a good place to start. Keep in mind that everything you tell yourself gets reflected in your neurons and impacts your function in ways you might not expect. Your brain runs your self-talk like a computer program, launching a self-fulfilling prophecy based on the code you’ve fed it with. By limiting yourself to unconvincing ‘I want,’ you signal that there’s little difference between your 251 daily itches and cravings and, say, starting a business.
So how do you program excitement for what comes next?
‘Desire’ is a sexier way to express your wish: by stating you desire something you almost turn your intent into poetry, activating and involving more intimate depths of your feelings, senses, and instincts. Apart from transforming your wants into passions, desire has a lot to do with your needs. And we all know how psychological needs may feel as urging and intense as the physiological ones. You don’t just neglect your need to eat or pee, right? So why would you neglect your higher need for purpose? Why wouldn’t you pursue your desires with the same focused determination as you search for the toilet in a maze of a shopping mall?
However, desire itself is more of a nagging pull rather than a consistent productive state. That’s why I came up with calling my determined headspace horniness (because Ace of Wands just calls for it, right?). I define my horniness as the continuous build-up of inner pressure not only pushing me towards my object of desire but also establishing an intimate relationship between us.
I am a passionate lover to what I do. I don’t merely want to write. I am horny as hell about writing. Not only do I desire to write, but also desperately need it to feel fulfilled, accomplished, and alive. Feeling alive grants me a renewable source of vitality which, in turn, is what gets me out of bed every morning. Volo, ergo sum (I desire, therefore I exist).
Have you ever taken a closer look at the Magician? You might have noticed that, although he is depicted with attributes of all four suits, it’s another Wand that he’s lifting up as if reciting his spell. Now, seeing the Magician, we think about him representing proactivity, creation, mastery, willpower, aspiration, intention, innovation. But among his tools, it’s the Ace of Wands that is crucial to the transformation he has intended. His desire and will are what set everything in motion. He must be horny as hell too. Magic does not happen otherwise.
Reach Out to Your Ace of Wands
About three months ago I faced a massive drawback with my writing. As I began to act upon my desire to become a published poet, I was forced to take a more critical approach towards my existing texts. What I found rummaging through them made me squirm with disappointment. I was a poet without poems. My poetry couldn’t catch up with the grandeur of my ambition. Too simple, too repetitive, too naive, too forced. Astounded and disheartened, I recognized the touchstone of my struggles yet still felt at loss. Maybe I wasn’t meant to be a poet after all. Maybe I had to disown my dreams and focus my efforts on looking for an office job.
In order to gather my thoughts and brainstorm my way out of this writing pit, I resorted to journaling. It took some time for me to get both my ambitions and my fears and doubts spilled out on paper, clearing my head for new possibilities I might have overlooked. After that, I called upon the image of my Knight of Wands — currently the most active, potent, and decisive part of myself — and channeled him in writing to pry an answer out of him.
However, a simple pep talk from my alter ego appeared to be insufficient for my needs. Whatever my Knight of Wands had to say, I was quick to retort with negativity and self-pity. Until I finally got the answer I least expected.
‘Then don’t do it. Quit. Will that make you feel better?’
My answer was an immediate and definite ‘no’. I felt it in my muscles tensing with denial.
‘Then you have no other choice but to stop feeling sorry for yourself and actually do something.’ Checkmate.
Today, whenever I get stuck and hopeless, I ask myself: is quitting going to make me happier? The answer is always ‘no’. Well, back to work then.
And this is exactly the path I want you to travel in order to reconnect with your desire and recognize its value.
Raise the stakes: journaling
First of all, do not underestimate the magic behind journaling. As you entrust your notebook/notes app with your hopes and insecurities and thus take an active stance towards them, your brain receives a command that this particular issue requires special attention, which is much more specific than chewing on a loop of scattered thoughts in your head.
Secure yourself 20-30 minutes and take this small step. If you own a tarot deck, pull out your Ace of Wands and direct your flow of thoughts towards it. Don’t stop writing even if the only thing you’re able to produce at the moment is “I’m nuts for even wanting this”. Note everything that’s on your mind. The words will eventually come.
You might want to reflect on the following questions:
- What is your desire? Be as specific as possible.
- How will your life change if you pursue it? Make notes of both the short-term outcomes (e.g. I will cut down on social media to secure 1 hour a day for writing/painting/running my instablog etc.) and the long-term ones (e.g. I will be able to eventually quit my day job). Can you see them changing the quality of your life for the better? Good, that’s the spirit!
- What happens if you don’t make your move? Similarly, reflect on your nearest future (e.g. My apathetic state won’t go away) and your long-term perspectives (e.g. I might get stuck with the job I hate for the rest of my life). Don’t be afraid to exaggerate. Raise the stakes!
- What’s stopping you from starting right now? (e.g., lack of skill or knowledge, lack of support from friends and family, etc.) Are these obstacles permanent, definite, and unchangeable? Do they depend on your efforts? Can they be ignored? Can they be compensated? Do you really want to define yourself with your limitations? Are you intending to keep them (limitations, that is) for the rest of your life? Are you really that kind of person?
Now, the right way of answering these questions is to get into as much detail as possible. Our brains prefer sexy and tangible details rather than cliches of general statements (e.g. My successful career will make me rich. — How rich exactly? Specify). Use all of your senses: imagine the soft breeze from an open window when you get to your morning writing routine, and how the pages look inviting with sunlight stretched over them. Take in the smell of the ocean and the vibrance of colors outside your cabin as you leisurely contact your client from the Maldives. Then imagine yourself barely surviving a dull business meeting, hardly keeping your eyes open and anxious from the overload of coffee.
And the second your energy-conserving brain tells you once again: “I won’t make it”, “I won’t be able to achieve this”, “I’m worthless”, “I’m a failure”, write down in capital letters: THEN DON’T DO IT. QUIT. IS THAT GOING TO MAKE YOU HAPPIER?
Can you feel the “no” flashing through your mind? Are you going to take any more shit from the voice that tells you to stop tending to your higher needs? No? Then you’re smarter than your greedy energy-conserving brain and it’s time to take action.
However, if you don’t feel the immediate emotional response, chances are that: 1) this might actually be the wrong wish for you or the one that isn’t really yours, 2) you haven’t made the outcomes appealing or daunting enough, 3) you haven’t given yourself the right to change your life (and you should remember that it’s already inherently yours), 4) you might be too tired, burnt-out or depressed (if so, I’m sorry and I feel for you).
Let’s see what other small efforts you can make in order to ignite your spark.
Tap into your potential: imaging
“Visualize your perfect life,” says an article on the Internet that I skim while searching for actionable recommendations on how to get unstuck with my work. “Create a moodboard featuring the ideas for your perfect home. Imagine yourself nailing that exam. See yourself receiving the results you’ve been hoping for.” I sigh and close the tab. I know that’s not gonna work.
Now, I’ve consciously avoided the word visualization in the headline so that you wouldn’t skip this section for its triviality. Before you do, let’s take a science-based look at why visualization works, why it doesn’t, and how imaging is different from it (and considerably more effective).
Visualization vs. Imaging
In his brilliant book Decoding Greatness, Ron Friedman mentions research that provides some insight into the effectiveness of visualization. The researchers studied three groups of students preparing for their exams. The first group was instructed to regularly visualize (outside their studying hours) getting a high score; the second focused their visualization practice on the process of studying. The control group was only told to think about their studies, no specific instructions were given. Guess which group actually nailed it?
The second did. How? By rewiring their brain to focus its processing power on the given task in the so-called “background mode” (that is, outside of actually reading and revising).
The truth is, our brain sees little difference between our mental efforts and the real ones. The research proves that imaginary studies “light up” the same areas of your brain that are responsible for actual studying. The world of sports is also familiar with this phenomenon: by going through their training mentally not only do sportsmen hone their strategies but also train their muscles, increase their body control, and are thus able to spend up to 50% less time on actual training!
What group do you think scored the worst? Yup, the first one, visualizing only the results of their performance. It appears that while focusing exclusively on the desired result our brain produces some amount of dopamine that activates our reward system and gives us a slight feeling of accomplishment. Something along the lines of “well, job’s done, time to celebrate.” This results in no extra effort made, and the job is probably still far from done.
Revitalize your image
Now that we see how visualization works and how it doesn’t, what about imaging? How is it different?
While visualization assumes that we feed our brain with helpful visual imagery (which should still be focused on the process rather than the desired result), imaging involves all senses. Much like I asked you to be very specific throughout your journaling practice, the same is applicable to imaging. Brains are not that stupid to believe a picture that lacks depth. By adding more tangible and believable details that are related to the process you’re imagining, you reprogram your mind to catch up with the wholesome image in your head.
As for time spent, it has been proven that imaging for 20 minutes a day is the most beneficial. However, research suggests that even 3 minutes of focused effort a day are enough to make a change. What matters is how real your image feels.
Since we’re here to call upon our horniness and vitality, I want your mental images to feel like pure self-indulgence. Immerse your mind into the potential that Ace of Wands holds. Recreate mentally the stages you go through in order to achieve your goal in the tiniest detail: your workplace, your clothes, the music you listen to while performing your tasks, the smell of paper, or the noise your computer makes.
But most importantly, train your brain to recognize and enter your most productive state: image the flow, passion, ambition, focus, challenge, and how horny and alive they make you feel. Stay aware of your inner monolog. Counter your negative self-talk with the notion that you’re doing your thing because you didn’t particularly enjoy the prospect of not doing it.
I like imaging myself writing with dedication and gratitude for simply being able to. And I am open to the wonders of every place it brings me to.
Harness your desire with Ace of Wands: spread
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Now let’s take a closer look at the positions of the spread.
- What is the potency of your desire? That is, how can pursuing it change your life for the better in the long run? If you struggle with coming up with vivid and tangible outcomes of your efforts, trust the cards to draw an empowering image for you.
- What is its deepest value for you? How does following your wish resolve your needs and add up to your personal/professional fulfillment?
- What do you already have to pursue your desire? What is your current start-up budget? Maybe you already have some kind of valuable resource that you’re not completely aware of: e.g. knowledge from related fields, useful contacts, just enough money for starters — anything you can invest into your venture from the very beginning.
- What hinders you from pursuing it? This position can also hint at whether the obstacles are real or exist only in your head.
- How do you overcome these obstacles? This is your first step before you start: how do you eliminate what sets you back? Does it require a mental effort, enhanced awareness of the issues, or some real action?
- How do you turn your desire into a productive state? As I’ve already mentioned, human behavior is state-driven and state-dependent. What kind of mindset do you need to adopt to proceed in the most efficient way?
- What is the best long-term approach to pursue your desire? You can also put it this way: what is your global strategy? Or: who do you need to become to succeed?
- How do you start right now? Paying close attention to this position will help you find your way out of the deadlock. Many of us get paralyzed at the prospect of venturing into the unknown or making a life-changing decision. The first step is of great importance if you need to break the ice and get your juices flowing.
- Words of encouragement from your Ace of Wands.
My personal message is: whatever it is you desire, go for it! Your determination itself might take you places you could never imagine.
With trust in your purpose,
your local dreamer